Learning is actually a declaration of vulnerability because it requires an admission of not knowing. As children, we aren’t aware of the risk of admission but slowly shame writes its story deep in our hearts and emphasizes the NOT knowing ENOUGH. If you’ve failed an exam, publicly answered a question wrongly or not known something
Yesterday’s ‘Sort your ship out’ post was so popular I thought to present some more on …ship dynamics. Imagine relationships were actual Ships. In order for an adult-to-adult RelationSHIP to sail, two or more people must agree to purchase and work on the ship together. This is called healthy mutuality. Ideally, the benefits and risk
In my work with leaders across organisations, I often discover disappointment around the area of relational expectation. This shows itself in various ways but is always painful. What is interesting is that this relational disappointment is rarely mutual. For example, a person may come on the LeaderSHIP team of a company. Deep down they have
It’s a confronting, tough and frustrating time. It’s filled with new energy and a different type of the drive to what we experienced in our teens and twenties. Guys that hit their early thirties tend to make major, life-altering decisions that often look ugly (and strange) from the outside. What’s going on? I have several
I must confess, I was one of the ignorant soul who would go to work on Monday after serving in a voluntary role at church on a Sunday and bitterly wonder why the pastor took the Monday or Friday off. I now get it.
In our common longing for identity, belonging and legitimacy, most of humanity look for markers of achievement. Eg in the business world – size and profitability of the company. Sports world – ranking and ability. As Christian’s in community (the Church) we are not exempt from this longing, the markers just take a different form
Our dream is to see people live fulfilling lives from connected hearts. Our passion is to serve those in leadership within churches, organisations and the marketplace. Over the past 18 months, so many new doors have opened to us, allowing us to bring healing, training and heart change to hundreds. Not surprisingly, the demand is
I think if we were all honest with ourselves, and this includes me, we don’t really StandForMercy. We stand for our own sense of fairness. We want to bless, but cursing feels better and comes easier. We want to forgive but resentment seems to empower us more and motivate stronger.
Where do I start? God is so good. People are so generous. Life has changed in so many ways. 10 weeks ago we put out a blog post telling our story and expressing some needs that we had. We needed to move house, I needed a new computer, we needed provision for up and
“Did you hear about such-and-such? He was stepped down from his leadership position” “I heard he wasn’t cutting it so the Senior Pastor and eldership stepped him down” Confession time: I have used these phrases numerous times over the last couple of decades. But I think I’ll stop for a while. The idea of stepping